If you are looking for some interesting books that will not only push you out of your comfort zone, but are important topics to flush out with friends and family – ‘Advice for Future Corpses (and Those Who Love Them)’ By Sallie Tisdale and ‘Many Love – A Memoir of Polyamory and Finding Love(s)’ By Sophie Lucido Johnson are your books. Daring, fascinating and eye brow raising. Get your favourite hot drink or cocktail and get ready to absorb a new way of thinking.
Advice for Future Corpses (and Those Who Love Them) – A Practical Perspective on Death and Dying
By Sallie Tisdale
“In its loving, fierce specificity, this book on how to die is also a blessedly saccharine-free guide for how to live.” —The New York Times
We Are All Future Corpses
Former NEA fellow and Pushcart Prize-winning writer Sallie Tisdale offers a lyrical, thought-provoking, yet practical perspective on death and dying in Advice for Future Corpses (and Those Who Love Them). Informed by her many years working as a nurse, with more than a decade in palliative care, Tisdale provides a frank, direct, and compassionate meditation on the inevitable.
From the sublime (the faint sound of Mozart as you take your last breath) to the ridiculous (lessons on how to close the sagging jaw of a corpse), Tisdale leads the reader through the peaks and troughs of death with a calm, wise, and humorous hand. Advice for Future Corpses is more than a how-to manual or a spiritual bible: it is a graceful compilation of honest and intimate anecdotes based on the deaths Tisdale has witnessed in her work and life, as well as stories from cultures, traditions, and literature around the world.
Tisdale explores all the heartbreaking, beautiful, terrifying, confusing, absurd, and even joyful experiences that accompany the work of dying, including:
A Good Death: What does it mean to die “a good death”? Can there be more than one kind of good death? What can I do to make my death, or the deaths of my loved ones, good?
Communication: What to say and not to say, what to ask, and when, from the dying, loved ones, doctors, and more.
Last Months, Weeks, Days, and Hours: What you might expect, physically and emotionally, including the limitations, freedoms, pain, and joy of this unique time.
Bodies: What happens to a body after death? What options are available to me after my death, and how do I choose—and make sure my wishes are followed?
Grief: “Grief is the story that must be told over and over…Grief is the breath after the last one.”
Beautifully written and compulsively readable, Advice for Future Corpses offers the resources and reassurance that we all need for planning the ends of our lives, and is essential reading for future corpses everywhere.
Now you maybe wondering, why do I want to read a book on corpses and dying? Well guess what? It’s never too late to go there whilst planning for our final stage of life. I almost lost my dad a few years ago and not only was it a wake up call for him but it was a wake up call for us as a family. I really enjoyed how ‘Advice for Future Corpses…’ spoke to me as a daughter of a senior on what type of conversations I need to be having with my parent, how do I take my ‘youthful’ mask off and look at what it means to be elderly and facing death head on with an aging body in tow as someone in her 40’s and really what it is like to age and die. The planning sheets that come with the book are a wonderful guide on how to prepare for not only your last will and testament but also your funeral wishes – the soft, textural and yet emotional stuff that we may not want to face, but is an essential piece of literary reflection that should be a part of your summer reading list.
Many Love – A Memoir of Polyamory and Finding Love(s)
By Sophie Lucido Johnson
“A fast-paced debut… A candid, modern take on polyamory for fans of memoirs and graphic novels, and anyone interested in stories of dating, love, and romance.” —Library Journal
After trying for years to emulate her boomer parents’ forty-year and still-going-strong marriage, Sophie realized that maybe the love she was looking for was down a road less traveled. In this bold, graphic memoir, she explores her sexuality, her values, and the versions of love our society accepts and practices. Along the way, she shares what it’s like to play on Tinder side-by-side with your boyfriend, encounter—and surmount—many types of jealousy, learn the power of female friendship, and other amazing things that happened when she stopped looking for “the one.”
In a lot of ways, Many Love is Sophie’s love letter to everyone she has ever cared for. Witty, insightful, and complete with illustrations, this debut provides a memorable glimpse into an unconventional life.
Gone are the days of those ‘traditional’ relationships we once saw poised in John Hughes’ teen films from the 80’s. Love affairs can take on so many different shapes and forms in this digital age and the pull for ‘open mindess’ in sex, relationships, intimacy and love is changing every second. ‘Many Love…’ will test your moral barometer and will perhaps in moments leave you aghast with what the book’s revelations could look and feel like. I enjoyed the lovely illustrations in this books to accompany the text. If you are looking for a reprieve from the story telling, and also a visual image to reflect upon – ‘Many Love…’ will present you with disclosures in a sensitively curated manner that is brimming with gentle education.