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About thirtyfourflavours

Canadian. South Asian. Lifestyle Writer. Master of Arts. Total sweetheart.


Winner of the 2021 SXSW Audience Award, Tom Petty, Somewhere You Feel Free: The Making of Wildflowers offers a unique take on the Petty legacy, diving deep into a condensed period of creativity and freedom for the legendary rock star.

Capturing the period of 1993-1995, during which he created his seminal and most emotionally raw album Wildflowers, the unvarnished look at Petty features never-before-seen footage drawn from a newly discovered archive of 16mm film as well as new interviews with album co-producers Rick Rubin and Heartbreaker Mike Campbell, along with original Heartbreaker Benmont Tench.

Director Mary Wharton illuminates an artist at the height of his powers, providing an intimate and emotional look at an enigmatic icon with archival footage of Petty and his band in the recording studio, behind-the-scenes on tour, and at home with his family, providing a view of Tom Petty as he has never been seen before.

Something happened today….

Something happened today. But before I tell you what happened, let me tell you what happened last week.

Last week, I was on my way home from an appointment and I passed a woman carrying a child at the corner of my street. I wouldn’t have paid her any mind, until I saw that she was holding an envelope with an address on it written on masking tape. We made eye contact and I asked her if she needed help. She was wearing a sari and carrying her son who may have been 5 or 6 and was dressed in a suit. She said she wanted to know how to get to the address on the envelope. I told her it was a long walk. She spoke in broken English and said she had only been in Canada for 15 days. She kept asking me where the bus stop was. There was no bus that I knew of on that street that would take her to the address. People passed us and looked at us. No one said a word. I offered to walk her to the subway and ask for help. She showed me the change she had in her hand, all glistening with loonies and twoonies. I told her not to worry.

As we walked, I asked her where she was from. She said ‘Karachi’. The same home town as my folks. I felt a pang in my stomach. She and her son both looked nervous and confused. She asked me if I was married and I replied, “No”. She asked why not, I nervously laughed and replied, “I don’t know?”.

 As we got to the subway, I asked the subway attendant how this woman could catch the bus she needed. He pointed me to the bus on the platform. I asked him if I could pay her fare to take her there, he agreed. As I left her, I asked her if she was ok, she said yes. I wished her well and carried on home. Something about that whole encounter stuck with me. I thought about it all week.

Today, I ran around all morning to back to back doctor’s appointments. When I returned home, I discovered that I had lost my wallet. Don’t ask me how, where and when. All I know is that I had my wallet when I left the subway station and when I got into my condo it was gone. You can imagine, I looked everywhere and I thought I was going to have a heart attack. After scouring my condo building, the concierge called me and said two cops were upstairs at my unit with my wallet. I met them and they said someone found my wallet on the street and returned it to the police station across the road. Between me losing my wallet and it being returned to me, 20-30 minutes had passed in total but it felt like hours. It is not lost on me, that this wallet was lost in the same area that I helped this woman. Some good karma coming my way? Perhaps? A guardian angel or a good soul? Perhaps. Whatever it is – I’m truly thankful.

Working through heart break

As I wade my way through grief as it relates to the loss of my father, I’ve been doing a lot of reading, writing, listening to podcasts and watching films to process my thoughts. I found this video to be poignant which can be inspiring towards loss in general.

Joico: For your Fall Fabulous Hair Needs

Yes, we are still in a pandemic. You may have just got a super stylin’ hair cut after a year of hum drum vibes. It’s time to freshen up your look for your Fall classes and back to onsite work. You also may be looking ahead for Thanksgiving and Holiday outfit looks. If that is the case, look no further. Joico has some great products that will not only bring your coiffure together but your overall style wellbeing. Let’s do this!



The instant you spray it on, this brilliant hair guardian springs into action, protecting each strand from the thermal assault of blow-dryers, flat irons, and other damaging heat-styling tools. Along with it? A healthy, glossy sheen that fortifies strands and locks out hair-dulling pollutants*.

Heat Hero doesn’t just guard against potential damage –it also reduces the appearance of split ends in the process.

Thermal protection up to 450°F (232°C)

Heat-activated, split-end mender

Boosts Shine

Protects against pollution*


*laboratory tested using pollution particles.


This va-va-voom mousse builds extraordinary, crunch-free volume in any masterpiece you can dream up; while instantly infusing hair with sumptuous volume, hold, and protection from the elements without drying out a single strand.

Think of JoiWhip as the mousse with a mission: to boldly boost body and shine in one airy “poof” of protection.

Creates lasting volume and body

Boosts shine

Fights frizz and flyaways

Thermal protection

Protects against pollution*



*laboratory tested using pollution particles.



Upside-down, sideways, backwards… this champ of a spray delivers supercharged volume and hold from any angle. With big-time body and ultra-firm staying power (up to 72 hours!), plus protection from heat styling and the elements, you’ll seriously flip for it.

Shine-boosting Flip Turn is the spray that never flakes out on you. Work all the angles with ease –the innovative nozzle does the job for you.

Ultra-firm hold and volumizing power

Humidity protection and hold up to 72-hours

No flakes

Thermal Protection up to 450°F (232°C)

Protects against pollution*

Free of SLS/SLES Sulfates**

*laboratory tested using pollution particles



Meet the seaside styling spray that delivers glam, beachy texture, satiny hydration, and protective separation in a single, transformative spray. That’s what you get with touchable Beach Shake –an ultimate vacation from texturizers that leave behind a dry, salty finish.

Create perfectly “imperfect” separation and coastal cool with a silky plush formula that you can play with, touch, and retouch to your heart’s content.

Creates totally touchable hair with an undone look

Quick-dry with a satin finish

Ideal for medium-to-thick hair

Stainless-steel ball technology ensures an ideal balance of wax and liquid

Protects against pollution*


*laboratory tested using pollution particles.



Take back your natural waves and curls with Zero Heat for Thick Hair. Without “crunch” or stiffness, this air-dry formula reins in the often uncontrollable volume and frizz of coarser strands.

Style your hair in seconds–that’s the beauty of this time-saving, polishing crème that provides long-lasting, air-dried style while keeping frizz at bay.

Minimizes frizz and enhances hair’s natural texture

Reduces natural drying time

Provides 24-hour humidity control

Retains your natural, air-dry look for up to 24 hours

Boosts shine

Leaves no sticky residue


Dear Dad,

To say that I am missing you would be an understatement. I’m not alone, I have heard stories in the last few days from your friends and family from near and far who will also be missing you. Dad, please know you were loved, cherished and appreciated for all your life’s contributions.

It feels like just yesterday you were driving us to school, work and church for mass. You worked so hard outside of the home to ensure that we had everything that we needed and more. You worked long shifts and sometimes we would only see you as you were going to bed or waking up to drive us to school. You never complained. You showed us what it looked like to work hard and be successful on our own terms.

I remember summer holidays where we used to go camping to Albion Hills, trips to Canada’s Wonderland where you would buy us funnel cakes, nachos and fudge and long drives to Buffalo for shopping trips. You took us to see Pope John Paul in 1983 at Downsview Park and was then inspired to follow his teachings during your lifetime. Whenever we called you over the holidays or visited with you, we would often catch you singing your favourite Christmas carols. You travelled to Australia and overseas to see family when you retired, it was the first time you travelled since immigrating to Canada in the 70’s. I always thought how remarkable it was, that you were never afraid. If you wanted something, you went for it.

In those early days, you used to call my sisters and I ‘your sons’. It may sound funny to some, but to my sisters and I – it felt great. You didn’t treat us like girls; instead you prepared us to take on life’s struggles with full hearts. “Don’t let someone say no to you, go for it. If you don’t try it, you will never know.”

Dad, you truly made a mark on our lives. The gifts you gave us daily were purposefully hidden with the intention of discovering when we were ready. Father Lawrence reminded me that you were an accomplished camera man back home in Karachi and that you had your own crew. You drew from that experience when documented through your photography every birthday, Christmas Concert and school production. At the time, it was pretty embarrassing seeing you walking around with a massive camera, taking shots of every single student performing. But now, as an adult, I understand that you were capturing beauty, love and kindness. We have your photographic artwork that we will treasure for the rest of our lives. Thank you.

You showed us what a leader looked like in your work with the union, the church and the Knights of Columbus. You created a space for us to connect with our spirituality and learn what it means to be close to God, be of service to our community and provide the same generosity and selfness that you showed to friends, family and those who needed support. It is no surprise that your children grew up to work in social work, education and in technology. Your sacrifices supported our growth as successful adults.

When you were sick this past month, I sat with you in the hospital and you asked me about your brothers Uncle Fred, Uncle Hillary, Uncle Charles and even you’re Mom. I know you missed them and wanted to see them again soon – but I hoped you could stay with us just a little longer. But I accept that God was ready for you to come home. I’m grateful to Father Peter for blessing you and preparing you for your life in Heaven. We can’t wait to see you again, Dad. Please keep a space warm for us.

In closing, I would like to read a brief poem by Rupi Kaur that summarizes who you were to us,

As of father of three daughters

It would have been normal

For him to push marriage onto us

This has been the narrative for

the women in my culture for hundreds of years

instead he pushed education

knowing it would set us free

in a world that wanted to contain us

he made sure that we learned

to walk independently

I love you Dad.

Reviews: @hotdocs 2021 “Death of My Two Fathers” and “The Hairdresser” #HotDocs21

The Death of My Two Fathers is a deeply personal journey of facing that which we often fear most: death and ourselves. By bearing witness to the reality of his father’s life, and death, Sol Guy unpacks the meaning of fatherhood, family, race, and identity to realize that we must all face where we come from in order to be more prepared for who we may become.


I’ve been thinking a lot about what it’s going to be like when I lose my parents. It’s an ache that always finds its way into my throat within seconds of entertaining those thoughts. This film articulates the lead up to the loss of a parent and the remnants that are left after they are gone. A true love letter to parents.

Kathleen is a hairdresser. Always has been, always will be. Even at 83 she is still doing hair. But not in the way you would expect. Her work is special. In this short, poetic documentary, Kathleen reflects upon her experience as we bear witness to her unusual work.


I’ve been watching my elderly father’s hair grow long over this pandemic. It reminded me that he still holds so much health even though he is 81. After watching this film, it made me think more deeply about what he sees when he looks in the mirror. Does he see his younger self embedded in the gray? What does he feel in his aging body? We put so much energy into our youth and staying young and beautiful. Why don’t we celebrate our elderly’s aging beauty with just as much enthusiasm?